against all odds

Did I have an extraordinary day today or what! Where should I start? Well, to give you a little background: I was asked to give a workshop to a bunch of high school students about the effects of advertising. It is part of a Comenius joint project in which schools of Spain, Italy, Poland, France, and Hungary take place. I got this email one day that a certain lady from a certain high school (both unknown for me) kindly asks if I would be willing to share my expertise. I was suprised coz I cannot say I get a lot of requests like this, but I was also very enthusiastic. The project was a challenge, because it's one thing that I know a lot about the topic and present it to professionals and colleagues, but what kids know about it, I had the faintest idea. So I prepared a lot and was looking forward to the day to come.

Whatever, and I am not exaggerating, whatever could go wrong and test my nerves, did. I mean, really. The only thing that saved me was that I was soo damn prepared that probably nobody would have. 

As a start, I had to go out of Budapest to a town I've never been to. I checked the schedule, the stops and the locations of the stops on google maps. The coach stop, however, was not where it was supposed to be. Even though I arrived to the place 25 mins earlier, I finally found the right stop only 3 mins before departure! OK, sigh, I made it.

With that bus I was supposed to arrive to the town of Halásztelek at 10.05 AM. That would have given me more than half an hour to prepare the room, the speakers, the internet, the videos, etc, and familiarize myself with the school and the teachers, let alone with the students, before starting the class at 10.45. Nevertheless, at 10.05, when I was supposed to already be walking to the school at Halásztelek, the bus hadn't even left Budapest!! There was such a huge traffic jam, coz we had ice on the streets today, that we were practically crawling not driving. I was already giving it up to ever arrive. But just when I let go, the bus started to move and I arrived to the town at 10.38 and to the school at 10.45. Just on time, as they say. :-)

Physically I was there, but arriving like this meant I had no mental preparation of course. Well, let's get over that! Coz then came the next challenge. I looked into the room, and, instead of the promised 30 students, they were, no kidding, 80! All the students from 4 grades! That just means it was COMPLETELY inadequate for the type of tasks I had prepared for (like group discussion and project work). But no panic still. 

Then I went on stage -- literally, it was a theater hall -- and started to set up the laptop with the projector. I had asked the organizers at least 3 times in advance if they have internet, laptop, projector, and speakers. "Of course!" quoteth the lady. "Of course my ass!" replieth reality.

During the one-hour show, we replugged the internet 3 times, started my prezi 4 times, couldn't play the video only from a third source I brought, waited for the speakers to arrive for 5 mins, and had an electric shortage with complete darkness (!) in the room, and I could continue. And imagine this with 80 students staring at me and murmuring. Of course the whole thing was a chaos -- compared to, at least, what I am used to from unversity classes or conferences -- and I could interact only with, let's say, the first 3 rows of students -- the rest, the majority was just making noise. But guess what, in the end some kids came to me and asked stuff, and the organizers proposed that I should give more lectures for them in the future. So, I reckon, it was a strange form of success.

You know why it was a great experience? Exactly because nothing about it was perfect. And I didn't give up and freeze or panic. It was a mind-opening experience to feel that it is just about accepting the present and making the most of it that really makes one content. Not a perfect show -- coz there is no such.

twenty-fifteen

Inspired by the turn of the year, I just had a poll here on the blog about NY, and guess what, it turned out that for most people NY is not New Year, but New York. (Um.) So, to be a but educational (wink ;-), I decided to focus on the lesser known, the new year interpretation. Sorry, Empire State Builders, maybe next time we can talk about the Big Apple too.

Instead of the usual resolution kind of posts, or the ones giving you an assessment of the past 365 days, I have decided to salute you with something else. I have hired some actors for a photo shooting, even going abroad for this, in order to be able to illustrate to you what I wish for all of us for 2015. (Tell me that I don't care about you!)

It is my honor to introduce to you the actors, from the famous Feline family of Constantinople.

Best Wishes for 2015

featuring: Cats of Istanbul

No. 1.: Do your job. Find your place.

We will need to work a bit even in 2015, but this is not a problem as long as we find our place in what we do (next to Panda Boss).

No. 2.: Sleep tight.

Sleeping is essential. Don't underestimate a good night sleep, a good pillow, and good company.

No. 3.: Treat your belly.

Much of how you feel has to do with what you eat. So try to be conscious of consuming what your belly -- and not your head or your horoscope -- calls for. (Bones for a cat? Why not? Mine eats olives and corn. Not very typical either.)

No. 4.: Don't say no to a tea.
Do I have to explain this on a TEA blog? :-)

No. 5.: Take a walk.
Slow down, look up, discover the hidden magic around you.

No. 6.: Embrace connection.
Like we heard from Christopher McCandles, "happiness is only real when shared."

No. 7.: Learn new languages.

Could be a theme picture of this blog as well, this cat and dog try to communicate with each other, even though they lack a common language. The attempt ended up in a tense scene, with the cat hissing like a snake and the dog crying like a baby. If only they had paid more attention during that L2 course! :-)

Happy New Year (or York), everyone!

t(o)urkey

It has a funny story. On the exact same day that I decided to quit my programmer job, a job that was just about to give me a significant raise, but a job that I started to feel as a misuse of my energy and time, I bumped into a call for a filming course in Turkey. I have just made up my mind to follow my dreams instead of following that of others (my boss wanted to prove that he can transform me into the next Zuckerberg). Having a long-time fascination for films, I knew this was the chance to start over. In the past, I already edited a couple of short and/or documentary productions and I simply adored both the process and the outcome. On that November day, I felt it was time to refresh and improve these dormant skills in me, bringing my creative storyteller spirit to the next level. So I quit there. And so I applied here. And two days later I was selected as the Hungarian participant. Unfortunately, I didn't have a lot of time to prepare, as November turned out to be an incredibly busy period for me. Before travelling, I even caught a massive cold, so for a couple of days I was considering to skip the trip. Finally I managed to settle all the inner and outer turmoil, thanks mostly to a large dosage of lemon and garlic (lemon for the germs, garlic for the jerks). :-)

..FYI: not just the ladies..

Before travelling to the location of the traning course, I had to stay in Istanbul for two days. OK, I didn't have to. I wanted to. And it was the best decision. Being an open-minded person and priding myself on being curious and tolerant, I have a hard time admitting that I did have some prejudice against going to an Islamic country. Not because of the typical Western reason, the fear of Jihadic violence. No, that I didn't have, as I had researched that area long before to know that extremists exist everywhere, killing in the name of anything. But what I couldn't accept (and in a way I still cannot) is the gender issue. Since lately I am quite gender-conscious -- actually I was even called the Equal Opportunities Officer a couple of times -- I view many things through these lenses. And let's accept, most of the established churches, Islam being one, perform quite badly in this respect. With all these preconceptions, I arrived to the banks of Bosphorus and I found myself fascinated by the city and the culture marked by mosques, minarets, and muezzin. Istanbul had such a unique atmosphere that simply mesmerized me. I must say, those two days took me on a spiritual, inward journey (and it was not just because of the large dosage of Turkish tea I was cleansing myself with  :-).

In this mindset, I had to continue my journey to Kars, a small town next to the (closed) Turkish-Armenian border. Seemingly, it was a completely uninteresting and unimpressive city, especially after Istanbul, but its relevance lies exactly in the ethnic conflicts, of the Turkish, Kurdish, Armenian,  Russian, and Azerbaijani inhabitants, that resulted in the very decadence we see today. The city had too much history to cover and we had too little time to explore, so the filming part of the training was not as successful and effective as I had expected. (We started to make short films about antiracism, about local relations, about the torn down monument of the Armenian-Turkish friendship, and so on, but nobody really completed their projects in those 7 days.) There was, however, a lot to learn on a different level. We were a multi-ethnic group of 30 people, just like a school class. As a teacher and coach, it was an eye-opening experience for me to be on the other side.

We were representing quite different cultures, backgrounds, and world views. Occasionally, I was the only one in my group of 5-6 that was not religious, let alone, not Muslim. Nothing really was self-evident, like on what grounds I (and Western mainstream ideology) think it was debatable why Muslim women have to cover their faces, or why LGBT (what? who?) are not unnatural to claim rights, or why is given so much space in politics. All the group projects were challenging, because we needed to reach a group decision. It was rare when two people were on the same side. The reason that I (we) felt frustrated so often in these group processes made me (us) realize how bloody difficult it is to live in real democracy, one vote meaning just one vote. :-) Also, as a teaching method, I came to view groupwork a bit differently. Previously I had glorified it, considering it more effective, in most cases, than individual or frontal methods. Now I was reminded that it should not be overused though, because it does have its social-cooperational value, but as far as work-efficiency is concerned, it heavily depends on the personality of the members, which only occasionally is free of conflict.

We had a funny task once. As a social-cultural experiment, we had to draw our countries on a blind map. The Netherlands started, then came a miniature version of Germany (to correct the size problems set by Holland). This is when I was supposed to put Hungary on the map. It was hilarious to see how I placed it so damn far from Western Europe (yes, my mis-perception of the position of Hungary :-). To mend the situation, the Italian girl decided to draw her country reverse, as if Italy was "kicking" Hungary away. This is how we ended up with a new, very welcomed, neighbor: Sicily. Bella Taormina! :-) On the East, then, Azerbaijan became our new border-country, which again is a very fortunate change if you bear in mind that it will become a lot easier like this to travel to the European Games next year. :-)

All in all, it was a successful 11 days. We reshaped borders, brought cultures together, and had a lot of fun. 

to use or not to use

Do you use Prezi? Still not?! It has 40 million users and you are telling me you are not one of them?! What is your excuse?!

OK, I'll save you from the rest of the marketing bullshit. 

As an avid Prezilian and a dedicated educator, I have been evangelizing Prezi as a great educational tool. I gave a number of talks, seminars, and workshops, to introduce the benefits of this fairly young online software. Thanks to my researcher spirit, it also meant that I started surveying what people think about Prezi (gee, am I becoming a UX researcher?). The general opinion I encountered is strangely ambivalent. While most people are fascinated to see prezis, for their dynamism and spacial virtuosity, very few of them are comfortable when it comes to making them. In other words, a great number of people reach the point of user registration, with the intention to master this genial tool, but quite many of them end up entering their account once or twice only. More often than not, they quit after a couple of attempts. Simply speaking, it is because many people still find it too difficult and time-consuming, as compared to PowerPoint. 

Bearing this in mind, I tried to find and propose solutions for an easier prezi production. This is how I bumped into templates, whose sole purpose is to make the software more user-friendly. I figured, their use must be very frequent, given that people generally struggle with all the freedom, as far as content and design are concerned. So, following this hypothesis of mine, I launched a research project and accepted to present it at a conference. This conference was just yesterday.

I must admit as a start, my hypothesis proved wrong. People don't seem to use templates; in fact, because of the arrangements of the page, most of the templates (let's say, 80 out of 90) remain hidden for most users (they would need to discover a button and make a click to find the majority of the templates). Also, the templates are restricted to certain themes (football, space travel, botanics, journey, etc.), or they are very schematic (imagine five circles and four arrows); this means that it is limited what topic they can be ideal for. Thirdly, people have a hard time customizing them. If, say, they only need four cicles for their four main topics, and the template contains five, they are stuck (no kidding).

To present this topic, of course, I also made a prezi, using one of the templates (called Uncharted Territory). Since most of the times I start my prezis from blank, having to use a template was a more or less uncharted territory for me. My impression about them is that, for a starter, they are useful (you can get inspiration and tips how to construct a prezi), but once you become more expert, they seem to be too limiting (both theme- and stucture-wise).

Below you can click through my prezi. Full screen recommended.

exam

As a teacher, you get to know myriads of different types and kinds of people. It is your job to understand them, adjust to them, and learn to handle them. This, however, doesn't mean that you are not challenged, or occasionally even shocked, by them. A couple of months ago I told you about a major cultural shock I had with one of my students. Remember, the Chinese invasion. Besides the shocking behavioral culture, they surprised me with the expected outcome of the tutoring. The parents had set their minds to put the child in an English-speaking school from September, so he was supposed to master English, to pass an entrance exam, from zero, in two months. I occasionally think of the kid and wonder how he might be doing. I really liked him, but more emphatically I felt sorry for him for the domineering parents. After such cases I find myself concluding that it is so much harder to teach kids than adults, for two apparent reasons. On the one hand, with children, it is the parents who order and evaluate your service -- without being present and being realistic about the needs and abilities of the child. This can lead to false expectations and conflicts between the teacher and the parent, the teacher and the child, and maybe even between the child and the parent. On the other hand, when teaching kids -- who tend to be much more open and much less shielded than adults -- you get a very intimate insight into the family picture. More often than not, you notice deficiencies in that picture, but you have little space and limited rights to interfere. You may ask, you may comment, you may advise, but there is no recipe whether and how much you should involve yourself or accept; fight or leave; or something inbetween.

But then, I often realize adults are not much simpler either. I recently started to teach a young woman in her 30s who wanted to pass an exam in order to get a raise in her workplace. She came to me when she already had failed two exams. When I got into the picture, she had 1-2 months left till the last exam of the year. On the first occasion, I learned that she was planning to take a specialized exam for medical staff. While this made sense in theory (she being a nurse), when confronted with the specific exam tasks, I firmly believed it was a no-go. Although it was supposed to be intermediate, let's say B1, the reading was so difficult that even I had to check some of the vocabulary to comprehend the message. As for her, she practically didn't get anything out of it. At the end of the session, I tried to convince her to rethink her schedule, in order to spare herself another disappointment. She said she would think about it. For two weeks we were practicing these horribly complicated medical texts. She was progressing, getting more and more confident, but the goal was still way too far. 

After two weeks she informed me that she had changed her mind about the exam. She wouldn't take the one we were practicing for, because she didn't feel confident. She would try another one, a regular, which had an exam date one month later than we had calculated. I supported her decision. We started to practice more "real-life" English, not just the vocabulary drilling the previous exam required, and it was also a pleasant change that we had much more time to digest the material. I started to see some light at the end of the tunnel. 

But then came another twist. Next time we met, she told me she had third thoughts. She went back to believing that the medical exam would be more useful, so we needed to return to that. Four weeks were left. And then she had some family trip so we didn't have classes. And then we had classes but she started to panic so that's why we couldn't progress. And then... and then...

...and then came the exam.

The dilemma is the same in both cases. How much you care. You have to be a parent, a guide, a friend, a police officer, a therapist, an encyclopedia, Google Translate, and, at the same time, yourself. Finding the balance between connection and distance is the exam we, teachers, have to learn to pass.

happy..

..a-n-n-i-v-e-r-s-a-r-y!!!

It was, to the day, one year ago that I launched this blog and invited you, for the first time, to share and taste exciting tea stories by joining an inspirational online community. Now it's time to stop for a moment and look back. Now it's time to have a birthday party. Folks, it's TEA PARTY TIME!!

Since one of the most popular sections of the blog is interviews (do I know how to ask questions or what? :-), I thought to surprise you with one for this special occasion. The interviewee will be none other than ... myself.

Hello, Anna. I read a lot about you. Now we finally meet.

My pleasure.

You know the reason why we sat down next this enchanting kettle of tea, right?

Yes, because we are quite alike: we both adore tea. :-) But, to be fair, there is another reason as well: the blog entered into its second year, which, in the virtual world, is already maturity. So it's a reason to celebrate.

You say maturity? So blogs are like cats? You count with seven years?

Well, you can say so. The thing about virtual surfaces is that by now it has become very easy to build your online presence, not just through social media but blogs as well. Blogs are very popular because, with their themed and personalized content, they fit the modern trend of sharing; what's more, they are free so anyone can afford, and there is a wide variety of samples and templates to help with the design. It seems, therefore, that they are easy to maintain. 

But then reality kicks in. Soon you realize it is you who needs to create the content, day by day, week by week, month by month. And there comes the effort, because it is sweaty work. Sometimes you are tired of your day. Sometimes you are fed up with having to sit at the computer constantly. Sometimes you are sick of people and you don't feel like talking anymore. Sometimes you just can't find the words and your muse seems to be on holiday. And once you skip a day, a week, a month, it's damn hard to get back. Why? Because there might not be enough motivation; there might not be enough feedback. One big disadvantage of virtual activities is that, in fact, you are on your own. After all, we are mainly doing this not for ourselves but for our audience. And it takes time and energy, in the sea of blogs, to call attention, raise interest, get noticed. Many blogs die before they could reach this point -- the point when your audience keeps you going even if you are tired, fed up, sick, and uninspired. This is why I am happy and proud to step into the second year with this blog.

Turkish tea

How do you look back on the past year?

Like a typical Hungarian, I start with the negative aspect. :-) I must admit, I also had my difficulties from time to time. After the initial (and so often irrational) enthusiasm, I slowly had to rationalize (euphemism for: reduce) the amount of posts I produce a month, in order to balance professional life, private life, and virtual life. I found it important from the first moment to keep myself from getting overly virtual, at the expense of real, physical life (even though I know the general tendency is shockingly going in the opposite direction). 

At the same time, I love writing and this blog proved to serve as a perfect platform to express myself. It grew beyond a simple "teacher's blog". It became much more than a collection of classroom stories, addressing the wider themes of languages and cultures, two passions of mine, as well. Human interaction also became a key topic of the posts. We covered issues from stereotypes and gender, to creativity and inspiration. The topics of group dynamics and self-perception were addressed not only as matters of the classroom but as matters of everyday life. 

A couple of months after the start of the blog, I launched two new sections which proved to be quite popular. In one of the interview series, we got to hear stories of expats, from Hungary, Slovenia, Germany, Romania, Japan, and the US, who chose to live in countries whose culture and language is different from theirs. From each of the subjects, we got to see the often mysticized issue of migration from a different perspective, and while all of them were positive about their experiences, they warned us also about the difficulties that usually remain hidden. In the other interview series, we got to talk with professionals who work with English in a variety of contexts, from elementary school teaching to reseach. We came to see that languages can lead you to many exciting paths.

English tea

What did you like most about the blog?

All the posts gave me pleasure (some more, some less, of course). But overall what I liked the most is the variety of topics, issues, styles, and stories I could share. I found it inspiring to talk with people, both in the form of the interviews and in the comments. I'm a curious person who can't stop exploring. This blog was a way and an excuse to pursue this quest of mine.

Although you already hinted, could you specify what you had difficulties with?

Time. And those hidden efforts it takes to keep on producing sound content. To say enough but not too much; to explain the context but not overcomplicate; to introduce new topics but stay consistent. It is hard to go back to the computer if you already spent a day in front of it; it is hard to be excited to communicate when you talked and listened all day already; it is hard to choose a virtual room when you can choose a real tea house. These are all difficulties I faced only after becoming a blogger and maintaining the blog on a regular basis, for a longer period. Everyone needs to face these dilemmas and find the path that fits them, time-wise, routine-wise, sacrifice-wise, and so on.

Japanese tea

What would you do differently if you could start over, or what are you going to do differently in the future?

Well, I don't really like to think in conditionals. I did it this way and it was OK. The blog is not perfect and my processes were not always consistent, but I always did my best. This being my first personal-professional blog, after a more restricted academic blog and a co-edited sports blog, the exploration process it entailed taught me a lot, since I had to face newer and newer challenges and find my own way. 

What I changed since I had started the blog is the frequency of posts, to be able to keep up the quality of the content. At the same time, it is perfectly understandable that at the launch I posted so much. Enthusiasm kept me going, even at the expense of other duties, which I weigh differently now. This does not mean the blog means less; it only means that I realized sustainability is an important aspect of success. I cannot keep up with posting every day or 3 times a week, like in the beginning. I needed to be realistic and see how much I can promise myself and my audience. Regularity -- what and how much people can expect from your blog -- is crucial in building a stable audience, thus, a stable blog.

Then, what can your audience expect in the upcoming year?

Intriguing stories and delicious teas from all over the world! :-) The theme doesn't change, that I can say. Also, the main sections will stay, but I am planning to enrich the selection with a couple of new flavors. Of these, you will get a taste soon. 

As for the scheduling, I will stick to the monthly posting for a bit still, due to my work duties, but once things are settled, I may be able to return to the weekly routine. 

Indian chai

Finally, what advice would you give for (prospective or practicing) bloggers?

For prospectives: give it a go. Not only is it a lot of fun, you also learn a lot while writing about a topic. It is not just the process but also the people it leads you to that will enrich you. In the end, you will realize how much more there is still to know about an issue you thought you were expert in. But be realistic: it will take a lot of time and energy. Therefore, I suggest that you launch your blog only if you care a lot about that issue, so it can keep you through the tough times (although tea and coffee help too :-).

For practitioners: let's connect. It was always a pleasure for me to get to know how other people do it, because we have a lot to share, from advice through complaint to success stories. And you can never know which friend, acquaintance or reader of yours you will help out by guiding them to your fellow blogger's page by sharing its link on your blog. 

For all my readers: thanks for your interest. It is a pleasure to share the stories and the teas with you.
Egészségünkre!

distraction

Sorry, folks, I will be a bit less active in the following months. No, I didn't get sick. No, I didn't get pregnant either. What? Thesis writing? Well, of course, who isn't? But that's not my reason. What happened is that I took a full-time job. Or rather, the job took me. It really has an incredible story how it happened. Out of curiosity, I applied to an online editor job in an IT company, didn't get a lot of effort into many resume, sttil, to my greatest suprise, I was called to the interview almost immediately. I arrived quite tired to the office, because the previous day I had just returned from an overnight trip and I was still knocked out (you know, I am not 20 anymore). I didn't expect a lot, you can imagine. But guess what, the interview turned into something else (no, not a menage a trois): into an inspirational professional discussion, centering on the revelation how much this IT company and I thought alike as far as research and science are concerned. The boss told me that they really want to hire me because they need people like me in their team. Actually, not so much in the editorial group, but in the core, research, team. I said, it's very nice but I have no background whatsoever in informatics nor programming. He said, in a couple of months I can learn into it and he believes I am a better, long-term investment, due to my open-minded character and my wide knowledge in science, than a programmer, who is less flexible and less likely to stay. I was truly flattered, and, although I did have my doubts (me a programmer? oh, com' on!), I accepted the challenge.

So here I am a programmer-to-be. Gee, I used to be a nerd, now I am becoming a geek? Ew, another social stigma to overcome. :-) I must admit, it is unbelievably challenging to find my way in this new world. It is not just the mindset -- to see everything in code -- that poses a challenge but also the community -- my colleagues need to be reminded to _sometimes_
- open the window - drink water - or eat something else than hamburger.  
Sounds awfully stereotypical, I know. Can't help it..

But from challenge comes triumph, the wise man says. And indeed, when I wrote my first code [print("Hello, World")], or when, after days, I solved Fibonacci with recursive functions, or when, after weeks, I put together an algorithm to count the days of your life, taking leap days into consideration, that was heaven. I learned that trying was the only way of mastery. And perfection is just an illusion.

Still at the doors of computer programming, with one foot in and one foot out, I am giving you now something inspirational (beyond this fairy tale of mine :-). Let's watch this short film together and find out who this weird species we like to admire and ridicule...

 

"...who a computer programmer is..."